little girls in china

* babies,female babies, it seemed, were found everywhere, every day. babies wrapped in newspapers, babies bundled in rags, babies in baskets, babies in boxes.

* the vast majority of people adopting chinese children are, after all, caucasians ~ and has accepted the application of single parents of both sexes, and of people well into their forties, even into their fifties and sixties.

* while some new american parents stay in a four or five star hotel during their adoptive sojourn to china, the baby they take home may have come from a rural area where her parents live in a one~room shelter with dirt floors and no electricity and where the price of a single night in a luxury hotel might constitute the family's yearly budget.

* chinese women's productive lives were largely controlled by the state. permission from the government was required in order to have a child; women who became pregnant without consent were often forced to have abortions, even late in their pregnancies. a women lacked official permission to bear the child she was carrying could quickly end up on the streets ~ or worse. if that baby was a girl, her husband and his family could disown her for giving birth of the wrong gender. she could lose her job and her home.

* it's a crime to give up a child in china.

* most of the women who abandon children do it in secret, hid somewhere, maybe move to another city.

* wrote poet fu hsuan in the third century, " girls were a cheap commodity in china"

* harsh realities ~ the chinese government's strict populating policy introduced in 1980, the culture's traditional reliance on sons, plus untold hardships and emotionally wrenching circumstances known only to the birth mother ~ will have forced these little girls from their families. The children who are placed with adopting families represent only a tiny fraction of those found abandoned through the country ~ or those missing altogether.

* most of the children will have no known history to look into, should they ever want to trace their parents. Their birth parents leave little information, if any. for all the benefits of adoption into a loving family in the west, there is a loss of roots each small girl must deal with as she grows into adulthood, coming of age halfway across the globe, having lost the thread that might someday lead her back.

as a soon to be mother of a orphanage from china...i put all my faith & trust in God.... i know that only through God has mallory been brought to us....why are we so fortunate to have this opportunity to adopt mallory??? i trust is God's perfect plan for mallory's life.

please pray for all the birth mother's who've abandoned their baby girls not because they wanted to but because they forced to....my heart breaks for mallory's birth mother....i thank her for her sacrifice and i vow to raise mallory the best we know how with the guidance of God.